Creating Connections Ezine, ©Felicia J. Slattery // ISSN 1939-8646 // Volume 10 – Issue 3

Inside this Edition:

  • Note from Felicia
  • Speakers Spotlight
  • Feature Article
  • Upcoming Events
  • Marketplace


Personal Note

snow kids 2013Hello Again Dear Reader!

Yesterday in the Chicago area Mother Nature dumped about 8″ of snow on us, leading to one of the best possible things that can happen to a kid: SNOW DAY! All the schools in our area were closed, which meant my girls could sleep in (ha – as if!), read their library books, build a fort in their rooms, and play outside in the snow with the neighbors. Such fun! As for me, I got my cardio workout in shoveling the driveway and sidewalk with my hubby, Brent, who came home early from work to avoid traffic and beat at least some of the snow. In all we ended up shoveling THREE times!!

Adela Lost Everything She Owned in a Fire
Earlier this week, I sent a message to my subscribers about my friend and VIP client Adela Rubio, who one evening last month was on the phone when she suddenly heard her mother screaming, (Adela takes care of her aging parents in the home they shared together), “There’s smoke coming through the floor!” In less than an hour their home was burned to the ground, along with all of Adela’s work except what she could salvage from one small laptop computer. Some of our colleagues have come together to support her in getting her and her family back on their feet by offering 19 products – each worth more then $100 – for one excellent low price. Go now to see those products and help out someone in need.

Time to Get Healthy!
As you can imagine, when I was diagnosed with lung cancer last year, my health became my #1 priority until it was cured and I was completely healed (woo-hoo!). Now that I’m happily on the other side and healthy again, folks are interested in the changes I’ve been making with regard to my fitness and healthy eating. I’ve been invited to be a featured presenter in the Get Healthy Summit. This unique interview series began this week and will feature 25 of the most interesting natural health practitioners including green smoothie advocates, raw foodies, fitness trainers, detox coaches, and more. Register here so you don’t miss a single interview.

Kill The Elevator Speech: Stop Selling, Start Connecting Book
Thank you for your well-wishes and warm response to this section in my most recent past edition. I had no idea if anyone would even read it! In case you missed it, my next book, which I have been having a fabulous time researching and writing, is one of my hot projects now. I’m at the point where I need to keep myself accountable and finally get the manuscript done and to my publisher. My goal is to get to 40,000 words (good ones, not just a bunch of baloney to up the word count). So each edition, in this spot, I’ll tell you where I am with my current word count. You may not even pay attention to it, but I’ll know. This week’s word count: 21,177 (yay – that 20K is a big milestone!).

Feature Article: Top 5 Reasons Why the Elevator Speech Should Be Killed!
I know, that’s some strong language, but sometimes a metaphorical  “crime of passion” is the only way to be ruthless with your time and business so you can truly connect with people, while also serving them and make some great money in the process. Today’s article is a portion of my book and explains in brief detail what the problem is with the whole “elevator speech” thing anyway. You may or may not agree, but this is a fresh new article and I’d love your input. Maybe you might even get a spot in the book (hey, I could use the words and even more insight!).

Enjoy and until next time, happy speaking!



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Speaker Spotlight

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Feature Article: Top 5 Reasons Why the Elevator Speech Stinks!

Do THESE guys want to hear your "elevator speech?" Probably not.

Do THESE guys want to hear your “elevator speech?” Probably not.

Last year, after I had major surgery, part of my 3-month recovery included a significant amount of physical therapy. The location I chose was close to my home, which made going 3-4 times per week for hours at a time very convenient. The atmosphere of this particular physical therapy location was unlike how I’d imagined it’d be based on the couple of times I had taken loved ones in the past to physical therapy appointments.

It was set up like a small gym or personal training studio next to an area with about 8 tables for the therapists to work on individual patients. Because so many of us were there, literally for 2 or more hours at a time – some were there for 5 hours at a time! – I started to see many of the same faces over and over again.

I quickly noticed part of the culture of that particular physical therapy location was for the multiple therapists on duty at the time, along with the “regular” patients, of whom I quickly became one, to banter back and forth, talk about sports (a big thing when you live in the Chicago area and one of the guys in therapy is a professional athlete), and laugh at ourselves and our circumstances. Think of it as laughing through the pain.

Of course part of the conversation and small talk was around meeting each other, shaking hands, and introducing ourselves. Inevitably someone would ask, “So what do you do for a living?”

If I wasn’t already against using an elevator speech, I might have had a problem. Many of the folks in physical therapy were heavy laborers of some kind: truck drivers, brick layers, etc. There was a nurse, that professional athlete I mentioned, all of those folks injured on the job. Then there were a couple of people like me who weren’t injured on the job, but had surgery or some other injury we were recovering from.

Just imagine the look on a big truck driver’s face after he asked me, “What do you do?” had I given him an “elevator speech” answer. I would have been laughed right out of the place! Or worse, he would have been confused or weirded out and probably just walked away.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. That you have to be “strategic” when deciding if you’re going to use your “elevator speech.” And that obviously, that wasn’t the place. It wasn’t a networking meeting. No one goes to physical therapy with the express purpose of meeting other people. But that’s one of the problems with why the elevator speech stinks on so many levels. Here you go:

  1. Many People Don’t Know How to Turn It Off
    You’ve probably met people at a wedding, for example, or another non-professional occasion, who, when introduced to them, the topic of what they do for a living comes up and they blurt out their elevator speech all proud of themselves. Then suddenly, the conversation STOPS. It’s awkward. Did you just try to sell me something? No? What the heck was all THAT about? You were just making polite conversation, but that person had no filter on an appropriate time to talk using “work language” and when to turn it off and just give it a rest. Now you may feel like you need a shower.
  2. The Elevator Speech Is Not Audience Specific
    When you write any speech, step 1 always has to be to answer the question, “who is my audience?” Theoretically speaking, if an elevator speech was a good idea, you’d have to prepare it for a specific segment or type of person. Except ANYONE at ANY TIME could ask you what you do for a living. So then in that moment, you’re faced with a choice: to use the elevator speech or not. If you go with what you’ve got and the person you’re speaking to in no way resembles the person you wrote the speech for, you get that awkward moment from above. If you write a speech that is “general” to “everyone” – well, that’s marketing suicide. So what do you do? Skip the speech, that’s what.
  3. The Elevator Speech Is Not Conducive to Actual Human Conversation
    If the purpose of the elevator speech is to have an answer prepared when someone asks you what you do for a living, and then you answer a single person asking a question in friendly conversation with a “speech,” you’re completely missing the mark. A conversation is a two-way communication event, not a one-way monologue or presentation, like a public speech. Having a conversation does not entail pre-planning your statements or delivering a forced, rehearsed diatribe. Conversations are spontaneous and, well, conversational.
  4. People Don’t Remember Your Elevator Speech (or Even the Highlights)
    Most people are hard-pressed to remember what THEY just said five minutes ago, let alone what YOU said. Exactly how much do people remember about you? After a brief introduction, they’ll remember about 1-3 words’ worth of detail such as, “she’s a speaker,” or “he’s a writer.” Maybe once they get to know you in conversation they’re remember more specific words like “leadership speaker” or “writer of marketing books.” Give people those words you want to be remembered by or they’ll come up with their own from your whole, long, spiel that doesn’t matter to them at all.
  5. Elevator Speeches Simply Don’t “Work”
    There have been very few studies about elevator speeches or pitches, but those that do exist all prove one thing: it’s a lot of time spend stressing over a “speech” for exactly zero return. According to Peter J. Denning and Nicolas Dew, in an article published in the June 2012 edition of Communications of the ACM Journal, (that’s Association for Computing Machinery – see? there’s not a lot of empirical research out there),

    “The data does not support the conventional wisdom that the elevator pitch is a key to success with innovations. The convention is a myth.”

And finally, although I only promised you 5 reasons why we should kill the elevator speech, here’s a bonus reason:

Most folks don’t like being on the receiving end and most don’t like having to give them. Therefore, if we don’t like ’em, let’s do away with the elevator speech. Who’s with me?


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March 7 & 8, 2013: Signature Speech for Authors. Intensive Virtual All-Day Workshop.

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April 9 & 11, 2013: Sponsorship for Speakers with Shannon Cherry. Mini Course. More details coming soon.

Macrh-May, 2013:  The Get Healthy Summit. Featured Speaker. Virtual training open to the public.

September 11, 2013: Chicagoland Holistic Chamber of Commerce, Featured Speaker: Credibility and Cash Flow.



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